Whereby I Note That I am Hoarding

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Goodies mom brought back from her hotel room from her trip last week

Philosophers Tony Robbins, Brian Cain, Jim Rohn, Dale Carnegie and Marcus Aurelius have all noted that we tend to become more like the people we spend the most time with.  Then they caution us to chose our companions wisely.

But the hoarder is my mom! And I live in her house!

You would think that my twenty years of minimalist discipline would keep me on the right track, but I have noted clutter creeping in to my closet. First there was the stack of fabric for future sewing projects. Then there was the ill-fitting, worn clothing that I was saving for yard work. Third, a large stack of books that people have loaned to me, that I have not gotten to yet. And lastly: photos, card stock and drawings that I am planning to turn into greeting cards.

All that stuff for my future self to deal with was kinda stressing me out. So I started dealing with it. I winnowed the sewing projects down to a volume that might actually get done in this calendar year. I got rid of the ill-fitting clothing and kept just one set of yard work clothes. I’m working through the books, and not letting myself get any new titles until these have been read (exception for this month’s book club book: Anne Lamont’s Help, Thanks, Wow!) And I took the time to assemble the paper chaos into greeting cards, which are now ready to be sent at a moment’s notice.

And that bag of goodies mom brought back from her trip? It has gone to the food pantry.

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8 thoughts on “Whereby I Note That I am Hoarding

  1. Priscilla Bettis says:

    I’ve heard that before, that we become more like the people with whom we spend time. I think it’s actually true with pets, too. Overweight people and overweight cats, athletic people and high energy dogs . . ..

    I think you are safe living with your mom because you are so aware. You’ve caught “clutter creeping in” in time to stop it. Hmm, maybe your mom is becoming less of a hoarder because she’s spending time with you!

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    • Fawn says:

      She is a bit less of a hoarder now, but she still very much has the mindset of someone who survived the Depression by making use/holding on to every scrap!

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  2. swissrose says:

    I certainly think this is true. But I also find that living a pared-back life requires constant monitoring anyway. Even the pioneers accumulated, I guess it‘s natural! Now whether that can already be considered hoarding?! lol Perhaps it‘s a comfort or feeling of safety to not be completely on the edge…

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    • Fawn says:

      I think the pioneers especially needed to accumulate, as they could not run down to the store to buy a smoothie, or an ax or clothing. I think because our world is smaller and more integrated, that we do not need to store up so much.

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  3. Teri says:

    It’s confirmed: you are human. We accumulate stuff. We also have to let it go or it crowds out our lives. I just donated four bags of books and clothes to a thrift store this afternoon. If I don’t keep up with it (moving stuff OUT of my life frequently), I feel overwhelmed and restricted. Decluttering is on-going, like washing clothes, doing dishes, chopping wood and carrying water. Before enlightenment, decluttering. After enlightenment, decluttering. Or something along those lines. 😀

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    • Fawn says:

      I completely agree that decluttering is on-going like dishwashing and chopping wood. I keep a bag in my trunk for the thrift store. When the bag gets full, I make a donation trip there.

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  4. De says:

    Interesting post but I as a hoarder which is a response from trauma that it is not as light hearted a subject that you have written about. I do not live nor have I ever lived with hoarders. I hoard to protect myself, to keep people away to keep me safe. So please there is a difference between decluttering and hoarding . De @ Hoarding my journey

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    • Fawn says:

      I’m so sorry for the trauma you have experienced. It sounds like you have good insight into your behavior. I wish you well on your healing journey!

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