After a long break, I am again dipping my toes into the dating pool. It feels a lot different this time. For one, my long blond hair is gone.

But mostly, if feels different because I am different on the inside.

Before, I was younger, discovering who I was. Now I know. I am a minimalist. I am a writer. I am a mother. I am a hospice nurse.

I don’t have any interest in being with a man who doesn’t respect the woman that I am. I’d rather be alone. I guess, I have gotten picky.

It’s about time.

15 thoughts on “Dating

  1. Patricia says:

    I was divorced with two children and then found my sweetie and we have been married almost 20 years. We love and support one another and look out for each other. We are always looking for a way to make each other smile or take a load off the other. We pray and thank God every day for one another. I truly hope that you can find a special person.


  2. Diane says:

    You’re not “picky”; you’ve raised your standards and I can relate to that. I know what I want (I’m 56 now) and I’d sooner live with myself than be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t share my values and beliefs, and that type is getting more and more difficult to find.


  3. J says:

    Yes, what Diane said. It’s not picky, it knowing what works and what doesn’t… J
    Good Judgement comes from experience, and much of that comes from bad judgement…..


  4. Lou says:

    In 1999, at age 58, I found my current partner on I arranged meets after church at a local coffee shop & made sure friends knew where I was going and the screen name of my date. In my on-line description, I did not write a word about what I was looking for, I simply described myself as pushing 60, brainy and usually barefoot. I “kissed a couple frogs” in the process of finding my honey, but it was worth it.

    Good luck in the dating pool – there ar some winners out there.


  5. swissrose says:

    I think I would feel like you if I were on the market – but I have never had to date as an adult, so it would feel really weird!! Some of us are lucky to meet wonderful, respectful men young and others never do. I have a friend who has been accused of being “picky” because she has never had a long-term partner – but she has just not been lucky enough to find someone who is right, I guess, and has a very full life otherwise!
    Knowing yourself is so important and I wish you all the best 🙂


  6. swissrose says:

    Sorry – just thought of this (it was our common little curl that did it!):
    “There once was a girl who had a little curl
    right in the middle of her forehead.
    When she was good, she was very very good
    and when she was bad, she was horrid…”
    Did you know this nursery rhyme?! 😉


  7. Nissa says:

    WOOT! : ) Sounds to me like you’re in the right place to attract someone who will be worth sharing precious time with. I wish you the best!…and have fun!


  8. Béatrice says:

    In French we say:”Bonne Merde!” When we want to say “good luck” but are afraid that saying it will attract bad luck!
    I have had long and good relationships, bad and short ones and many many years of celibacy. People sometimes commented that I was too picky while I felt it was the contrary. I think sometimes that love is not hard to find but hard to recognize. Being at the right place within yourself makes it a lot more easier to recognize it, I believe. That’s how I felt when I met my love through increadible serindipity.
    Bonne Merde Fawn!


  9. Ruthie says:


    You are so beautiful!

    I have been reading your blog for a few weeks and just finished the archives. I am a new nurse and hope to work hospice someday (currently i work on a neuro floor at the hospital). And I am a simple/frugal living enthisiast.

    Best of luck reentering the dating world 🙂


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